Monday, May 30, 2011

Faith is All You Need

What do you do when you've tried for years to have a child? Some people feel like giving up. On my behalf, I am blessed to have a person who is a mentor, friend, teacher and Gospel Writer in my life. Wanza has helped me to overturn some of my life's most difficult challenges. Infertility was one that I faced. Thanks to Wanza, I believe God for change. Through her books, inspirational words and being a true person who lives what she speaks, she has shown me that all things are possible to those that believe. She is a true believer that faith changes things. Her and her husband has believed God and now they have two beautiful daughters. I myself am now in the process of an IVF cycle. With my faith, God has made a way for me and my husband to have children.

Infertility is a hard situation to deal with but when you have a fabulous mentor like Wanza to remind you that your faith is all you need, no matter how hard things may seem. It is the best feeling in the world. God has given her a gift to help women build their faith and believe that it can happen for them too. I am a witness!

~Yakira Ward

Tuesday, May 3, 2011

Help for Infertile Women on Mother's Day!

Join me for my FREE LIVE CALL on Saturday, May 7th, 2011 at 12pm EST!

You don't have to cry and hide on Mother's Day! 

Learn how to enjoy this day without frustration, anger or sadness. I'll show you how to do it on this FREE call. 

Simply sign up below and you will receive the call instructions. This will be 45 minutes that will change your mind and perspective

I believe with all of my heart that you can ENJOY your life while you wait on your baby! I was in your shoes and I know how it feels to be empty, sad and overwhelmed on Mother's Day.

Don't let this year frustrate you - I'll show you how.
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Thursday, March 24, 2011

The Reason

There are so many questions we ask of ourselves everyday. Why am I skinny? Why am I black? Why am I fat?

One question that families suffering from infertility ask themselves constantly is “why can’t I have children?” We may not ask it verbally or even in those terms, but the questions comes through our emotions when we see a pregnant woman and we sigh. It is seen in our tears when a Mother’s Day commercial comes on and we know we will not be participating in the festivities this year.

The question arises in our hearts and minds when we are alone, left pondering why me?

The truth is there is nothing wrong with asking the question, but we must be prepared for the answer we receive.

Not the simple answers that we hear. 

“Relax, it will happen.”

“Don’t worry, there is nothing wrong.”

And even the age old, “In God’s timing it will happen for you.”

Those answers are cute, but nowhere near comforting when you are faced with medical proof that your chances of having children are slim to none without some sort of medical procedure and possibly not at all.

If you are truly going to ask the question, “Why can’t I have kids?” you must go to the source; the one that made you, your creator. 

Have no fear; God is not scared of questions. I actually believe he welcomes them. This is his way of getting into a closer relationship with you. When you ask, he can answer and that begins a relationship with your creator. He’s waiting for you to come to him for guidance.
When I began asking God, “Why me? Why my family?” I began to receive answers by reading God’s word. I found out that there are many women in the Bible that were not able to have children. Now, what did this mean for me? The more I read, the more I discovered that not only were these women not able to have children, but there circumstances seemed impossible to conceive children. Some of them were older in age, some had barren wombs and some the Lord had even shut their wombs for a specific time.

What did this say to me? I continued reading and realized that God had purpose for the lives of every woman that was barren. They were special. Each family’s case was different. It had meaning and the children they eventually had had great significance to God and his work.

I now had a reason for being barren. God had a purpose for me. I was special. I was different. And the children I bore would have definite purpose in the Kingdom of God.

Sunday, March 20, 2011

The Covenant

Deuteronomy 7:12-14:
Wherefore it shall come to pass, if ye hearken to these judgments, and keep, and do them, that the LORD thy God shall keep unto thee the covenant and the mercy which he sware unto thy fathers: And he will love thee, and bless thee, and multiply thee: he will also bless the fruit of thy womb, and the fruit of thy land, thy corn, and thy wine, and thine oil, the increase of thy kine, and the flocks of thy sheep, in the land which he sware unto thy fathers to give thee. Thou shalt be blessed above all people: there shall not be male or female barren among you, or among your cattle.

God desires to bless his children. Throughout the Bible we can see a loving God that desires to give his children the best. However, the best from God comes when we are obedient to his commands. God gave the Children of Israel specific instructions when they entered their new land.

With these instructions came blessings from God. The Lord declared he would keep his covenant if they would abide by his will. 

Has God given you any specific instructions as it relates to infertility? 

It should not be taken lightly that God in the blessings that he promises to give them that fertility is included. “…he will also bless the fruit of thy womb…there shall not be male or female barren among you, or among your cattle.”

The Lord promised that they seed would live forever. That’s right. It’s not just about one generation being born but generations to come. God made a covenant to extend their lives for years to come and to provide for them as well. Their cattle would not be barren as well.

This is so important to recognize that God has everything in our lives covered. He has made provision for us to be fruitful and multiply and he will also take care of our families once they are born. God has not left a stone unturned. Sometimes we think we can’t have children because we can’t afford it, but that is not the case. God promised to open up the womb and remove barrenness from men and women and then provide for you.

Take faith and believe that God wants you to have a child. It is your right and a child of God and an heir to the Kingdom. When God spoke to the children of Israel he spoke to you. If ye be Christ, then are you of Abraham’s seed. 

Everything he promised to them, he promised to you.

Friday, March 18, 2011

Infertility: The Diagnosis

Psalms 113:9 He maketh the barren woman to keep house, and to be a joyful mother of children. Praise ye the LORD.

Infertility often strikes us as something that can not happen to us. Not my family, of course not me. I was made to be a mom. How could I not have children? I was born to have children. I’ve longed for this day for so long.

Yet, we find ourselves leaving the doctor’s office bewildered with a diagnosis of infertility. Honestly, it doesn’t matter the reason the medical professionals said we can’t have children, only the outcome. Do I care if I have endometriosis, PCOS or two blocked tubes? Not really. What matters is the bottom line – will I be able to bear children?

When my doctor came to the realization that the only way I would possibly conceive would be through IVF, I knew this infertility thing was serious. It wasn’t a fad; it wasn’t going to just pass by without me being active about my health. I decided to make a conscious decision to not be defeated by medical terminology.

Did I join a gym? No. Did I go on a diet? Not really.

I became active about my health by activating my faith in God. I knew this was a job for Him. There was nothing that I could do medically to change my condition, but I knew a God that was able to heal all sickness and diseases.

I knew he was able to help me become fertile. I knew prayers worked. I knew believing God for the impossible was not a joke or a silly little tale someone told me in Sunday School when I was young.

My mother suffered from infertility and then multiple miscarriages. I remember hearing the old people say that they prayed for her to have children and then they had to pray for her to stop having them. My mom gave birth to four children. I am a result of prayer and faith in God. My siblings are a result of my parents’ faith in God. If it were not for them activating their faith, my siblings and I would not be here, neither would my nieces and nephews.

Believing God for what human beings say is impossible delights God to work on your behalf. 

Don’t get caught up in the diagnosis, believe the one that can heal you.

Thursday, March 17, 2011

4 Keys to Overcoming the Infertility Blues

Infertility breaks the heart of thousands of women who desire to become mothers. The key is not to let the sadness of not being able to have a child overwhelm you.

Is that possible? Yes, it is. As a survivor of infertility there are keys you must develop to remain positive about until your situation changes.

Be Kind - If there are moms in your world, be kind to them. Do not expect them to hide their happiness about their own children. Sometimes families dealing with infertility issues can be insensitive to other families that are enjoying their children. Don't make them feel guilty because you do not have children. 

Be Helpful - Know a mom that needs help? Help her. The best way to find out the real joy of mothering is to help someone in need. When you have a child, that child is dependent upon you for all their essentials. Help a family that may be struggling to provide during the recession. Let joy replace sadness in your heart by making someone's load a little lighter.

Be Mindful - Not everyone knows your thoughts, feelings or emotions. Be careful when you respond to people that are seemingly speaking negatively to you. Everyone is not aware of your medical condition and believe it or not, they do not mean you any ill will. 

Be Grateful - A key to receiving is to be grateful for what you have. What do you have that gave you joy before the doctor say you were unable to conceive? Take the time to write a list of things you can not live without and cherish them. Your world will become more enjoyable when you become grateful for the things you already have. 

It is possible to live without saddness while you wait on your child. With God's help and these four tips, I discovered that I was able to live a life full of joy and peace during my season of infertility. I pray the same for you.

Be blessed,
Wanza Leftwich
The Gospel Writer

Monday, April 26, 2010

Infertility Defeated AGAIN!

If you told me faith in God doesn't work, I'd have to show you my proof that it does!

Infertility was defeated AGAIN. This week we welcomed our second child, Lyric Aaliyah Joye (Joy) into our lives. 

I am overwhelmed by God's faithfulness, his grace and his mercy. I am no different from any other women reading this blog that has suffered through infertility. What God did for me and my family, he can do for you.

I have a renewed sense of purpose in this season to write more often about my family's infertility experience. The more I search the web or tweet with new friends, I'm finding that it's not about the infertility diagnosis, but it's about what you believe.

Join me as I write, encourage and simply rant about faith and infertility in this season. I believe if you're reading this God has something extraordinary for you. So, open up your heart and let's receive it.

Miracles are real and do happen today. I can't wait for you to receive yours. 

Believing God with you,
Wanza Leftwich
The Gospel Writer